Over the years people relationship grows and get stronger.
Unfortunately many people can’t say the same. Some view their
relationships from the heart and not the mind. Which results in many people
having a visual disadvantage. Although you love them, many things or situations will
sometimes reduce your interest in regards to your relationship. Lets use
communication for an example. You must know that the most important
function in a relationship is communication. Without it the relationship
is dead which explains the interest level. I think we all can agree that; that
type of relationship is on the boarder of being defined dysfunctional. And it
is sad that people are having the unfortunate opportunity to experience a
relationship of that magnitude. Therefore, you should refuse to rewind
and playback it script, if that once happen to you in the past, it will only
get worse if you do not take control of the situation. You should ask yourself
over and over, do I really see a future with that person, but do
not let the answer remain void, and many should know that settling is not an
option.
You need to always examine yourself and your relationship
and continue to ask yourself question like -do we have the same interest, hopes
and dreams in regards to our future. Are your dreams my dreams? Do
you really see me as your wife/or husband with children in the future? Many
partners always say “yes we are going to get married and have children in the
future”, but sometimes you have to look deep within the person and make sure
they not telling you stories to just pacify you. I don’t want you to remain
floating endless on that boat with many endless waves without dissipating into
the sea. I always hear people say "I was this way when we meet” but
usually people make a sacrifice for things they want in life. And, yes
you should accept who that person is as it relates to their soul. But no
relationship should every feel one sided. Every relationship need to share some
interest, likes and dislikes, wants and desires.
My favorite saying is " a wise man will hear
and increase learning and a man of understanding shall attain wise
counsel". We need to be honest with one another. There is no such
thing, as going with the flow, please don’t fall into that ridiculous excuse.
HELLO, you guys are not back in middle school. Even a ten year old has a plan,
when they save their money to make purchases in regards to a toy, or perhaps a
video game. Planning is everything so that you can see your results. Know
that God has better and bigger plans for you in life, so if you don't see
them in your future, maybe it's time for you to put them in your past.
PLEASE DON'T SETTLE, don’t be the person who feels so
much and don't say a word, but screaming inside and can't be heard. Remember no
relationship is a waste of time; it's a learning process of what you like and
what you don’t. There’s a big difference between: Who we love, who we settle
for and who we're meant for, therefore never plan a future with someone that
has no future plans for themselves"
